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3 Small Behaviors That Turn Us Men Off
I’d Like You To At Least Read This Ladies
1. You Don’t Understand
We do not. Because we can’t decipher your thoughts and, for the most part, can’t make sense of the nuances you may be trying to convey in your speech, we have no business assuming anything. ASS-U-ME.
Just because I don’t understand why you’re upset with me doesn’t mean I don’t care about you or your feelings or am too preoccupied with my own problems to notice yours.
Me not understanding doesn’t make you right. You saying, “You just don’t understand,” doesn’t make you right. Though it is indicative of a communication issue, and that’s a two-way street.
Could you tell me exactly what it is that has made you so cross with me? Could I do something to make things right? Your refusal to shed light on the situation is not only infuriating but counterproductive as well. I want to get back to good.
Remember that men are not naturally perceptive; we learn best through explicit instruction. Please be straight and tell me what I do wrong. Don’t ask me to read your mind. I can’t read minds. Even though you want me to, I just can’t!
If your significant other ever questions your cold treatment, you may speed up the thawing process by telling them exactly what’s on your mind…